So start paying attention to the good in yourself!
In my last post, I talked about how I’m noticing difficult things in myself (reactions to challenging people and situations, thoughts, fears, etc.) that I thought I’d dealt with. I told you that going back to the familiar is actually a normal reaction to stress and that we can use this to continue the process of rewiring – carving in new habits.
Today I want to call attention to (celebrate) the times in which you’ve surprised yourself. Maybe you’re also seeing yourself respond differently than you would have expected.
Have you noticed yourself being kind…
… and generous with one of your last two rolls of toilet paper paper when all this first got started; finding reasons to laugh instead of crumble in hopelessness and fear; owning your feelings of sadness or hurt instead of trying to pretend otherwise; implementing boundaries you’ve decided are good for you regardless of the inevitable pushback from family or friends; or any other number of possibilities that you’d like to see more of in yourself?
Notice these responses. Embrace them, reinforce yourself and celebrate your growth. The more you consciously notice a positive or healthy response, the more you are making that familiar, building a new neuropathway and teaching your brain that you’re safe. Eventually THAT becomes familiar which means it becomes automatic.
Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. Viktor Frankl
Of course, you don’t have to boast to others and make it a place of pride. Just notice it within yourself. Do a mental fist-bump (then wash your hands😉) and maybe even say of prayer of gratitude for the transformation taking place.
The more we notice the good, the more we see the good
When we’re intentional to notice our positive moves and strengths, those behaviors eventually become unintentional. (Fyi, this works for our kids and spouses too: The more we notice their positives and thank them (instead of harping on the negative) the more we’ll see the positive. They’ll be exhibiting it more because they love the praise and we’re priming our brains to notice it more).
Hey, speaking of kids, here’s a mindfulness packet for kids and families (although I love it for me – because it’s written in a way I can understand!). Hope it helps you increase your (and your kids’?) ability to respond in ways you want to celebrate.
Remember, whatever you’re feeling right now is OK. What matters is what you DO with it.
Feel free to reach out if I can help with any of this!
In the meantime, I’m standing with and for…(AND celebrating)… you!